He is quite literally, burying the dead weight to which you have been tethered. And he is honoring your timing Alma. He doesn’t decide to cut the chords, you do. I cannot know how his act makes you feel, but imagining myself in the same position, I experience a wave of relief and I love the idea that maybe your lover is performing a burial rite for whatever it is that causes you to feel disconnected from your agency, power and self-determination.

…something shocking has taken place here and your response is to try to reason it into making sense…While you don’t exactly mention fear, you do say that you’re aware, all the while, of a bear on the loose. An ongoing state of awareness like this rings of hypervigilance, a state often brought on and/or sustained by fear.

“It’s been my experience, and I offer this experience in hopes that it clears up what for many is a common barrier towards developing a positive relationship with meditation, that the part of us that meditates is not the part of us that thinks. The part of us that can tune into an expanded state of consciousness, that is meditation, is not mind.”

The fulfillment of process as therapy leads towards a more dimensional definition of strength. Strength not only as brute force, but strength as having options, nuance, and the capacity for appropriate modulation. The ability to surrender weight onto a supporting bone for example, is not strength per se, but it is an element that is required in order for the musculoskeletal system to sustain its intricate and never ceasing balancing act.

Why is self-love something to care about? It’s like the oxygen-mask announcement on airplanes. Before you assist others, you first, secure your own mask. It’s the same with love. Loving others can be richer, more delicious, more secure when self-love precedes it. 

In a country that has one of the highest prescription drug addiction rates on the world stage, in other words, one of the highest rates of violence towards the self, is it really so surprising that we are also enacting so much violence towards each other?